Staying Positive In Difficult Times.

Staying Positive In Difficult Times

One thing that anyone knows about me is that I love my family.  I love my husband, my children and my entire family and their happiness and contentment in life is my focus.  But when one of my family members is hurt, disappointment, angered, or wronged it hurts me to my soul and I try to fix the problem.  To fix a problem is what I like to do. I like to make things better for the people that I love.  I sit, and think and ponder on what actions or plans I could initiate to rectify the situation.  But, in today's society, there is something that I cannot go up against and win...that is the racist mind.  This is a terrible state that my family members and many other races deal with on a regular basis. But sometimes, you just get tired and need to vent, to sort out your feelings, then, with a refreshed mind, look to be positive and continue to strive toward excellence.

Yes, I know, you are probably thinking that me stating that someone that my family is working with is racist is a copout and that this term is being so overused.  And that is true. But, look at the facts. When your family member is professional, ethical, graduate level degreed twice over, years of experience and STILL gets passed over for advancement, left out, buried under foolishness, its just damn hard being and staying positive.  But, I try and I am going to continue to try. I don't have any choice.  Unfortunately, this is what life is about, at least this life.   I will let God handle things, because Lord knows what would happen if I was left to my own accord.  I know two wrongs don't make things right, but sometimes, just sometimes, sticking it back to that person would feel oh so good.  Oh, excuse me.  I went off on a tangent. Don't hate. I'm still human. Namaste. Positive thinking and positive vibes and prayer. 

Staying positive.  I get advice from my mother and she, ofcourse, says to pray.  I do pray, but I still get discouraged, I still get angry, but I still pray.  I pray that my family member will be acknowledged  and rewarded for their education, their hard work and their professionalism. I pray that what is for them, is for them and nothing and no one can stand in the way of this.  Faith in God is the only thing that I am positive about right now, there is and never was any faith in man.  Man always and continues to put you down.  Plus, staying positive is the only way to keep chronic illness  symptoms at bay.  One has to be careful that if you do not do something actively to control your level of anger and stress so that you won't exacerbate any chronic illness symptoms.  But, stress is stress, disappointment is disappointment and all you can do is recognize these feelings, sort them out...then...continue with positive thinking. 

Positive thoughts and positive vibes and ofcourse, pray, lots and lots of prayer.  One thing what I found out is that difficult times like this seperate the strong from the weak.  The faithful from the non faithful.  When life hands you disappointment, take time to acknowledge the hurt, the pain, the anger.  After acknowledging the feelings of your disappointment, choose your action.  You have two choices. You can lie down and wallow, complain and let this break you,  or you can suck it up and let this anger, this disappointment, this pain be a motivator to strive above the foolishness.  A motivator to strive to find a better place for your talents, where they are appreciated and acknowledged.  A motivator just to find a better place...period.

I am a firm believer in the old saying, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger."  It's okay to be strong, but sometimes it's okay not to be so strong.  It's okay to feel belated, to feel sad, angered or disappointed.  It's okay.  I think that's what we all need is just a place to have our feelings validated.  So, that's what I will do for my family member.  I will validate, give compassion and understanding and be beside them in whatever decision they make.  I will continue to pray for the best and place hope in God and not man.  There is nothing that I can do about how and why people think the way they do, act the way they act, or do what they do.  All I know is that my God is bigger and better than you.  

Namaste.